Sometimes in life, I have found that people make things too difficult. Sometimes they read too much into things and sometimes they react in ways that are overly dramatic. Sometimes they lose their heads and all traces of common sense. Life is actually pretty good if you let it be. However, I have found the hardest things that we do are the things that should be the easiest.
Everyone gets so caught up in themselves that they forget to think about how another person might feel, or how someone else might perceive an action or the words that you say. Being kind is not a weakness. Thinking of others will not make you less than them. Hateful words and making another person feel small will never build you up and cure whatever insecurity you are dealing with. Judging others, or making assumptions before you know the entire story may just make you miss out on an amazing person or experience. Telling someone that they are worthless does not improve your standing in life.
I say all the time that I try to live by the Golden Rule. It can be difficult, but I do try. There are also many days that I have to put myself back on to the course, but trying to live this way is the only way that I know how to live. It is the only example that I want to show my children. It is the only way I know of that would make my grandmother proud. It has come to my attention that by me being who I am and living the way I live, there are those who think I am not genuine or think perhaps I have ulterior motives. This is something that I really never thought people might think. I guess it explains some things. It makes me sad that people think that way instead of just accepting that this might be who I am. Oh well. I guess they really don’t want to take the time to get to know me at all. I think that is why I tend to keep people at arm’s length a lot of times. I let very few people into my circle, but once you are in…well, I would go to the ends of the earth for you if your really needed me to. I’m not saying that my way is perfect, and I am not a perfect person at all. And perhaps I am naive I am just saying that lately I have seen a lot of people hurting because of pain inflicted by others who don’t seem to know how to do the easy things. You know, smile, wave, forgive, communicate, love, respect…things that have become hard in our society. Things that should be second nature to us.
It is not as difficult as it seems to be nice to others. Yes, you can get taken advantage of…lots of times. Yes, you will be hurt. However at the end of the day, the only person who’s actions you can control is yourself. You can choose how you treat others. You can choose what you say to others. You can choose how you make others feel. If someone tells you that you are worthless, why do you give them the energy it takes to hate them and spew angry words about them. They are not worth the time and energy it takes to act that way. The only way you will be able to change their view is by your actions. Being angry is only going to confirm what they believe. So many of our actions are so self-defeating. So many times we make the words of others become true by choosing to NOT forgive, by choosing to feed into their drama. All we have to do is let it go. It really will work out.
I hope that the person that I am thinking of as I write this can feel my love and I hope that it helps to heal the heart that is broken. I hope that each and every person who is hurting will remember that not everyone has forgotten how to treat people. Not everyone has forgotten that a kind word can mean the world to someone. Not everyone has forgotten that every person, no matter who they are has worth. Not everyone has forgotten that love and respect must be given freely to be gotten at all. I will leave you all with a quote and a couple of shots that I found pretty peaceful. I hope everyone has an amazing rest of this week and I will talk to you soon.
-What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. They are trifles,
to be sure, but scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is