Yesterday, a friend of mine and I were having a conversation. And the way the conversations usually go usually is you start on one thing and it just morphs into something else. This is how this conversation was, and it was a good thing. We started talking about something rather lighthearted and ended up talking about a pretty deep subject. We were talking about the ripple effect.
The ripple effect is just my name for it. Basically, it’s my theory that your actions and my actions affect an untold number of people, they spread out from us like ripples on a pond. Just think about it. If you’re having a bad day and a stranger in a store gives you a complement for no reason, your day is a little brighter. So since your day is a little bit brighter you treat the next person with a little bit more kindness. And perhaps, they do the same. On the flipside of that if you are having a bad day, maybe you snap at people. And may be the person that you snap at, then in turn goes home and snaps at their significant other. Maybe their significant other is the boss of a big crew and they snap at their workers and the workers then quit and then they don’t have any money for Christmas and then Little kids are unhappy because Santa didn’t come…, you get the drift. Basically, what I’m saying is that our actions affect other people. In ways that we may never see.
The point of all this, is that (I think) we can actually choose how we act. A lot of people say “oh well, I had this happened so I got mad and I snapped.” and they think that makes their actions ok. That is really not acceptable. You have a choice. One of my coworkers said to me one day, “you are always so happy.” The thing is that I choose to be happy. Now, it doesn’t always work, don’t get me wrong. I have days when I am a horribly moody, feel blah or am sad, just like everyone else. Overall though, I choose to look at at the bright side of things. I choose to try and find the good in people, I choose to not let my day be so bad that I walk around frowning. I choose to see the beauty of life. I choose to see the goodness in other people. And I choose to be happy. Some days it’s hard. Some days I am surrounded by ugliness, and hateful people, and bad feelings. Some days I look at the world and everything that we do to one another and I get so sad. And frustrated. And disgusted. And disheartened. But, then I remember the capacity that people have to do good things. The capacity that our hearts hold for loving. And I remember all of the miracles that are set before us on a daily basis. I remember all the good things in life. And there we go with the ripples again. If you think about the good things in your life and you think about the goodness and kindness that has been shown to you then most often good things happen to you and goodness and kindness does come your way. And of course, if you treat others the way you wish that you were treated, that causes a ripple effect as well.
Some days, I know that everyone get so wrapped up in the things that are going wrong in their lives it’s hard to see the good. But I promise you, it’s there. And maybe, just maybe that smile or complement that you get from a complete stranger is the thing that allows you to see it. I hope each and every one of you make your ripples large and meaningful. I hope each and every one of you touch someone’s lives in a positive way and see firsthand the good that dwells in people’s hearts. Have a great day everyone, until I talk to you to you again. And by the way, here are a few pictures that I don’t think you’ve seen before.